Why Women’s Groups for a cause where gender does not matter?

So often, I come across people (other than the involved women themselves), enthusiastic about creating women’s groups.

To say the least, it does not help inclusion.

On the other end, I’m compelled to think about hidden motives. What do they gain by treating women in a workplace or social circle, as a subset of the mainstream?

Groups or events to deal with women’s issues, a platform for fearless sharing, having someone to listen and understand in a non-judgemental manner is fine. But why are women’s groups needed for mainstream life events which involves everyone, irrespective of gender?

Is it your vulnerability? Is it a mechanism to instil fear?

Vulnerability and fear are what make you stay in a subservient place. This applies to all underprivileged segments as much as women.

But do you really want to be there? Do…

We get a lot of dope on creating the right impression, not getting a second chance to create a first impression and so on, from all over. It makes sense, given the fact that the human attention span is 8 seconds, one second less than that of a goldfish. The imprint created in those few seconds does matter.

However, it does not change the fact, that life and relationships are much larger than this brief first interaction. All the ‘firsts’ occur only once. Relationships need to move beyond that, and mature into mutually beneficial bonds.

There are 5SMART( Sincerity, Modesty, Authenticity, Respect and Trust ) components that build up a personality, beyond the appearance. The absence of these components also builds up a personality. And these carry the power to either re-confirm, neutralise or negate the first impression.

SINCERITY

Dictionary meaning – ‘Sincerityis the virtue of one who…

I truly love the community here – so many different life experiences reaching across the internet to connect. I have cried, laughed, and generally felt the warmth of getting to know so many wonderful minds. I would love to meet you in person.

So, I have this fantasy, that we all meet – money and COVID not being an issue. I ponder the how and where, imagining animated conversations and unexpected bondings.

Won’t you join me this week with a little fantasy. Help me fill in the details.

Can’t wait to see what you come up with. Could be a setting, a preview of the agenda, an imagined conversation, or even a guest list. Have fun.

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you know music says a lot

there’s no end and no plot

takes more than one hand to clap

just a thumb and a finger to snap

sheeple selfies decompose in brawls

didn’t get the memo on awes and flaws

to perceive deception seems too lame

there’s no resolve and too many to blame

insipidity and fake news one in the same

witless souls still pitied and tattered

empathy is all that mattered

yep, simpler days sadly old hat

by the way the earth isn’t flat

-Eugi

Image by A_Different_Perspective from Pixabay

The word ‘allowed’ in family circles of conservative societies perplexes me no end.

I see umpteen men and women assume and broadcast rights they do not really possess.

“We ‘allow’ our women to ……”

Allow????

Do they really need permission? If they ask for it, it is a social conditioning. The baby elephant does not walk even after her chains are removed, because she believes she cannot. Women have been forced to fit in these narrow jars of social expectations, where they believe they are not entitled to do certain things.

The easiest way to enslave a population is to make them think in boxes, and follow the leaders. They stop seeing everything that lies out of those boxes, and ugly truths of domination fall easily in the cracks.

They ‘believe’ it is for their safety. They ‘believe’ they cannot manage their own lives. They ‘believe’ they always need to…

Packaging of a product cannot be over-emphasized in the present day world. Resume writing, writing LinkedIn profiles, development of soft skills are services, which people try to sell to you, practically every day of the week.

Yet, we look in the mirror every morning, and miss the fact, that your reflection offers the first glimpse of the package. It is the first and easiest step towards expression of your personality. Each of us has this avenue of expression available to us from an early age. Parents will testify to the wilful choices made by young people, and differences of opinion in families and educational institutions, on the appropriate projection of their personalities.

The First Dimension

How you feel, and how do you wish to project yourself ? The internal conversation in your head goes on :

1. “I want to break the ice today, and find a solution to this problem”.