Being Judged

Being judged is about another person reaching a conclusion about you, based on limited information available, and applying a logic which you are not comfortable with.

It should not matter really, unless the labelling starts affecting your family, social and professional life.

I’ve worked in an organisation, where the Chief routinely used foul language in meetings and conference calls. But there he was – refusing to help a lady with family problems, who was also known to use foul language. Given that the behaviour of both was equally deplorable, it mattered who wielded higher power.

The premises of ‘being judged’ then shifts to a power balance in families, society and workplaces.

POWER EQUATIONS

Who is in a position to inflict damage?

• The rapists who say ‘she asked for it’.

• The bosses who decide that a certain employee does not fall in line, talks too much or befriends people the boss…